Mike - Thanks for the offer to check your voltages, but I'm sure mine has a voltage too low to start all 3 of the lights - I would bet yours has a heavier guage wire to carry the heavier current demands when these lights start up.
Don - Your idea will definitely work - Our MH has two florescents in the living area, then one in the hall directly above the refrig. and the control panel. If I use the little rocker switch on the light above the refrig to turn it off, then the other two lights come on instantly at full brightness when I hit the 3-way main lighting switch. So yes, I could just leave one light disabled until I need it, but I kind of like things to work as they should
You did give me an idea, though - If I can get a 12 guage wire either over to the refrigerator or to the control panel, then I could drop the wire down to a better 12v power source, then use a relay at the light to control that 12v source for the light itself - the relay would likely have very little power draw.
Maybe I'll try that if no one else comes up with a better idea.
Thanks again to all that replied!!