re highlander, pre-owned, etc.
I don't mind hearing harsh words, but I don't think we're all over the place, and I don't think it's fair to admonish us on a public forum. We're brand-new at this, haven't purchased anything, and are in the early stages of researching a safe and ideal choice for our family. I absolutely love the advice and am so grateful to have found this forum, but it would be nice to not be criticized. If I want that I can just call my Dad!
All right, so it seems the consensus here is that we should NOT get a highlander, we should buy a pre-owned trailer after learning how to examine it, and a van or a truck is our best towing option. A used van or a truck. A van feels quite overwhelming, but can we really travel long distances -- the five of us, including 2 child car seats -- in a truck? Those back seats look squashed.
Thank you all for your input. I continue to be so grateful.