OP - Yep, it's a crap shoot on whether or not you can find a good salesman in your area that has the products you want to inspect. Good salesman do exists, and can be a real value in the search for a coach.
You might post a separate thread asking for recommendations for salesman within your region. IMO, a drive of up to 4 hours or more, is worth it to work with a good salesman.
You stated some needs, and some makers and models you're interested in. And of course it's your money to spend where you want. But, I will also suggest taking that budget and dropping years to obtain the highest quality coach that you can find. If you retain $25-25K of budget, you could then have modifications made to your personal desire. IMO, a better quality coach, say 5-10 years old, will still be a better coach 5 years out (age 10-15) then a new coach of lesser quality today. If a warranty is important to you, use some of your budget to by an extended warranty.
Country Coach - Allure/Intrigue/Magna/Affinity
Foretravel - U270 and up, with I feel the sweet spot being the U320
Monaco - Dynasty/Executive/Signature (And the HR equivalent)
Beaver - Patriot Thunder and Marquis
Prevost - Marathon/Other
Newmar - Mountain Aire/Essex
IMO, also buy a coach with a bigger block engine. At 40', a bigger engine does not work as hard as a mid size block (Cummins ISL/CAT C9), has superior braking horsepower with 2 or 3 Stage Jake Compression (or on Foretravel, Retarder - a nice thing to have) - and usually bring in the same, or sometimes better MPG then the smaller engines working harder to move that 40' coach
The other nice thing about buying an older higher end coach, is that depreciation hit will not be as bad going forward. Yes, they'll still drop, but not at the going over the cliff levels of driving a new coach off of the lot
Best of luck to you on this. It's run process, and it is all about what the two of you want, not us!!