My never-married aunt died without a will. She had my name joint with all of her accounts and had a quit claim deed giving my mother and me access to her house. She told me to sell her house and give the proceeds to my mother. She said she wanted everything else-money and furniture-divided between me and my 3 siblings.
We met at her house and took turns choosing a piece of furniture we wanted. I liquidated her investment accounts and bank accounts and divided the money equally between the 4 of us. No one questioned a thing. In fact, no one even asked how much money she had or asked to see any statements to make sure I was honest - they knew I followed her wishes explicitly. We went through the same process when my mother died except she did have a rather generic will. However, I had access to her accounts also as a joint owner so didn't need to probate. I just liquidated and split it up.
I do not understand families behaving so badly. They should be ashamed of themselves.
Gene, Gayle, & Oliver
2006 Holiday Rambler Endeavor 40 PDQ/2012 Honda CRV