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Old 02-01-2016, 06:00 AM   #15
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it's funny to me how people automatically assume "greedy kids" when they only hear one side of the story and it's just a "bad vibe feeling" story. Maybe their son is genuinely concerned about them and wants to make sure they're not going to run short on living expenses down the road. This whole thread is strange to me.....I don't understand why families can't have an open dialogue and instead of making assumptions of feelings or have gut feelings about them just talk them out.

I see you think you know how ALL families work/interact. Not! What you flippantly suggest assumes all see the world thru your goggles. Not that simple my friend
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Old 02-01-2016, 06:06 AM   #16
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Old 02-01-2016, 06:44 AM   #17
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it's funny to me how people automatically assume "greedy kids" when they only hear one side of the story and it's just a "bad vibe feeling" story. Maybe their son is genuinely concerned about them and wants to make sure they're not going to run short on living expenses down the road. This whole thread is strange to me.....I don't understand why families can't have an open dialogue and instead of making assumptions of feelings or have gut feelings about them just talk them out.
I for one agree with you. And this is exactly what we did. We talked to our daughters and son in law and told them what we were doing with "their inheritance". Now I agree this approach may not work in all family situations, but it did work for us.

We invite our kids to join us in our travels. They fly out to join us for a week, enjoy the area we are in then fly back home. My 12 year old granddaughter has more frequent flyer miles flying to where ever we are than her "rents" have combined! (rents = parents my granddaughter informed me. She is teaching me to talk like "real people do") Ahh to be young again.

Wolfcreek, sit down with them at dinner time some day and tell them how much you enjoy this lifestyle. Invite them to join you and be frank that you are only spending your "fun money" and you are financially secure and able to do this. Shoot maybe they will buy a RV of their own and give it a try when they see you and your wife having fun.
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Old 02-01-2016, 06:59 AM   #18
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Huh? I don't owe my kids or grandkids any explanation on what I do with my money. It will be their money when I die, for now I do with it what I please.
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I for one agree with you. And this is exactly what we did. We talked to our daughters and son in law and told them what we were doing with "their inheritance". Now I agree this approach may not work in all family situations, but it did work for us.

We invite our kids to join us in our travels. They fly out to join us for a week, enjoy the area we are in then fly back home. My 12 year old granddaughter has more frequent flyer miles flying to where ever we are than her "rents" have combined! (rents = parents my granddaughter informed me. She is teaching me to talk like "real people do") Ahh to be young again.

Wolfcreek, sit down with them at dinner time some day and tell them how much you enjoy this lifestyle. Invite them to join you and be frank that you are only spending your "fun money" and you are financially secure and able to do this. Shoot maybe they will buy a RV of their own and give it a try when they see you and your wife having fun.
We have told them about enjoying our retirement years before, and why we bought the RV. He has a good job, and family, but we still feel they didn't like our decision on the RV purchase..
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In my opinion, it sounds like you have worked hard your whole life and you should feel good about having the opportunity to enjoy retirement with your wife in your RV. I'm sorry to hear you don't feel like your family supports it. I know that must be frustrating.

Enjoy RV-ing, and know that you have the full support of those of us here on the forum!
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We are both 65 and the only family member upset with our purchase is my 91 year old mother! She just sees it as a huge waste of money that she would never spend, and at 91, she doesn't understand why anyone wants to ever be away from home. Our kids love it because it enables us to spend more time with them and the grandkids love it because we take them somewhere for a week or so each summer without their mom and dad.
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"We're Spending Our Children's Inheritance"
When we bought our first MH I sent a picture of it to the kids with the caption: "Spending Your Inheritance; Chapter 1".
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Old 02-01-2016, 09:46 AM   #23
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My Wife and i worked hard for our money and will spend it any way we see fit.We didnt get permission to make it so dont see a need to ask how to spend it.
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We have told them about enjoying our retirement years before, and why we bought the RV. He has a good job, and family, but we still feel they didn't like our decision on the RV purchase..
Next time you get this feeling ask your son what is going on. I have friends that think I am crazy to have bought and particularly nuts to be driving mine. Their reason is they can't see why anyone would want one. Different roads for different folks.
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If a family member has issues with what you're doing I'd have to say they're very selfish. You've earned the privilege (some would say "right") to enjoy your retirement however you deem fit.
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I told my kids they were lucky i had a prepaid funeral because i planed on dieing broke they laughed said enjoy it dad
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Old 02-01-2016, 10:52 AM   #27
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Sounds like some entitlement issues. Dont worry it will go away, if not there is nothing to worry about. You worked for and saved the money so you should be able to spend it for as you see fit for your own enjoyment.

We will be leaving our kids lots of well used toys.
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Raineman..you are right on the money (no pun intended!) As an insurance broker, I have seen first hand what happens with the so called "transfer of wealth" and the outcomes are usually not that favorable. We have settled life insurance claims with beneficiaries having to be kept in separate offices.

Parents are under NO obligation to share ANY information with their children, brothers, sisters, in laws or ministers about matters of finance or what they have accumulated over their lifetime. We have become a society of entitlements and believe me that the parents of these children shoulder most of the blame.

My father practiced law for over 55 years. He was a quiet and soft-spoken a man who NEVER discussed his financial condition with us. As I got older, he often told me that "death often changes the dynamics of a family" and he was spot on!
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