Well thanks for all of the suggestions everyone.
I went with the Demco base plate. it was by far the most inexpensive, and it helped to have a gift card for Amazon and free shipping to boot. I also found a very lightly used Demco Commander Tow Bar on craigs list for half of what it list new. The seller assured me it was only used twice, and by the looks of it I would have to agree. There was no rust, heavy scratches or paint fading. even the decals were still new looking. the welds looked good (no stress cracks, etc.).
so in conclusion, for both the base plate and tow bar I spent less then the cost of what the tow bar sells for new.
I will admit that I did like the ready brute elite setup, however, It was a bit to pricey for me.
Thanks again everyone. This place (irv2) and everyone here are wonderful, and a great help...