Solo RVrs - Do you get tired of people?

[JazzZen]

Maybe I just need to whine a bit to folks who get it, but I do get tired of people. I'm actually kind of new to this living alone thing, but it took me about a minute to adapt.
I've been very busy the last couple of months with activities, guests, visiting, and now staying for a month in a park where I know many people. I'm kind of peopled-out. Don't get me wrong. I'm gregarious and love a good happy hour, and time with friends and family is precious. But here, I feel like I have to take a drive to be alone. And I think the last couple of months have completely caught up with me. I guess I'm looking forward to the end of the month when I move - alone.
I'd love to hear from other solo RVrs on the topic. Everyone is so different and I think I have a lot to learn about living alone. Maybe you have some ideas or thoughts? Am I just being whiny or do others have this issue as well? How do you find balance between alone and social time? Do you get tired of people or are you frequently seeking others out?

[FATMANAR]

I didn't think I would like being alone while fulltiming, but so far it's ok. Next week I leave out on Friday and head to Batesville to enjoy the opening weekend of dirt track raceing. From there I go to Northeast Ar. to babysit my gradbabies for a week (springbreak) and then back here to get ready to go to Fl for two weeks. No one to answer too or consider when making plans or if something comes up last minute that you want to do. It's lonely sometimes, but my dog and I will do just fine....But to answer your question, no I always enjoy being around folks knowing I can always go back to my rv for quite time...

[GrantC]

There really is no right or wrong answer. If you want to be alone you can be. That's all part of being free and, probably, why you're in your RV in the first place. Don't fret about it. Just enjoy your life your way and have fun doing it.

[Izzyblueye]

I don't get peopled out necessarily. I enjoy my neighbors they are great. However, having said that, I don't like the sympathy syndrome that seems to prevail. I am alone because God called my co-pilot in. I have learned to live with that and it is not the worst thing in the world. If people treat me as just another RVer I am good with that.

[Fl.doodles]

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Originally Posted by JazzZen Maybe I just need to whine a bit to folks who get it, but I do get tired of people. I'm actually kind of new to this living alone thing, but it took me about a minute to adapt. I've been very busy the last couple of months with activities, guests, visiting, and now staying for a month in a park where I know many people. I'm kind of peopled-out. Don't get me wrong. I'm gregarious and love a good happy hour, and time with friends and family is precious. But here, I feel like I have to take a drive to be alone. And I think the last couple of months have completely caught up with me. I guess I'm looking forward to the end of the month when I move - alone. I'd love to hear from other solo RVrs on the topic. Everyone is so different and I think I have a lot to learn about living alone. Maybe you have some ideas or thoughts? Am I just being whiny or do others have this issue as well? How do you find balance between alone and social time? Do you get tired of people or are you frequently seeking others out?

I think It is what a person is comfortable with. I'm just getting started with the solo R.V.ing. I run solo at my house except for my dixiedoodle's ( 4 leg girl ) At home it seems when I'm the busiest doing a project thats when folks want to stop by. It does piss me off sometimes to stop and visit. Other times it doesn't. It seems the older I get the more it makes no difference to me being solo or not. Life is to short to make other peoples happy and you miserable. If I do have a need for friends and a beer the moose club or Eagles is right down the road or friends are a phone call away. One thing about solo is you do what you want when you want, no one to ask permission or discussion. But it does take time getting use to. There again it's the person, you have to make you happy, one way or another. But I must say when a friend needs me I'm right there for them. Be happy.......~Brenda~

[steelheadbluesman]

I'm looking forward to this discussion. I've been fulltiming for a little over a year, so still getting my feet wet. For me, although I love to have some social times mixed in, I definitely get tired of folks. I like to go at my own speed, and am fortunate to have a lot of interests to keep me occupied. I also enjoy happy hours and making casual friends as I travel, because most people are really interesting! I like to hear their stories and experiences. But, for me it seems time to move on every few weeks.

[CorsairIIAT]

I like being by myself. Althought I feel sorry for my neighbor. I'm working nights and getting in at 11:00pm-1:00am. And I'm parking my Cummins at that hour under his slide out bedroom. i have repeatedly asked if it bothers him. He states no not at all.

[JazzZen]

You guys are all fabulous! And just as I expected, as many different approaches and philosophies as there are people who solo RV!
I think part of my issue at this particular park is just what Homer was talking about - the sympathy factor. I'm beginning to see that people who appreciate living alone are in the minority. And some feel like they need to take care of me because they can't imagine being alone so much themselves (and because I'm such a great person to have around :-). If it becomes an issue - and it has several times - I deal with it.
Fatmanar - Sounds like despite your concerns about living alone, you've found some kind of good balance. I admire that and hope to achieve it myself - someday!
GrantC - I don't think I'm looking for a right or wrong answer. Not really an answer at all - just opinions and how others approach the life. I finally learned (and accepted) that for me, life is truly shades of gray. No such thing as black and white. So, some days, I want to be alone, others I need people. I'm fine with that and try to go with the flow. Currently, I'm overwhelmed, mostly due to one social thing after the other for several months (the first time that's happened since I started a little more than 2 years ago - and I'll plan more carefully because of it!).
Brenda - You're right on - life is short and my goal is always to keep it as fulfilling as possible. That means different things different days. Sometimes it's going to bingo (even though it's not my favorite thing) because dad wants me to, sometimes it's volunteering, sometimes it's spending the day driving around wherever I am looking for the perfect picture, or sitting in the sunshine and reading for the day. I make the most of it (even bingo!) and I never forget how fortunate I am to be where I am in my life. Thanks for the wish - I am very happy.
Steel - I sure appreciate how succinct you are. One of my favorite parts of this life is meeting so many different people and hearing their stories. It broadens my life and helps to remind me that everyone comes at life with very individual baggage. I also typically move every week or two. Having a home on wheels is wonderful! (PS - still perfecting the shroom thing - and having a great time experimenting with it! Thanks again!)
Corsair - I guess you should trust your neighbor to tell you when or if your loud, late-night arrivals bother him. Sounds like you've tried to cover your tracks and be a good neighbor.
Other ideas? Challenges? Successes? It's great to hear from you!

[Lorna]

"NOT ALL WHO WANDER ARE LOST"
Not all who are alone are lonely. Some folks don't get that. Just because you are solo, you will have some who think you are lonely. I am not a solo RVer but I do value my "alone time". I like my own company.

[Barbara S.]

I don't full time, but I do go a lot. I have joined many groups because I DON'T want to be alone. One of my best times was when I traveled with two other full timers. I enjoyed the companionship and we had wonderful group meals (everyone contributed something) that were much better than I would have been able to provide by myself. I was out traveling for a month then and I really enjoyed it. Right now I schedule all my adventures so I am with different groups. I am happier and I feel safer that way.

[FATMANAR]

JazzZen, I am leaving out this weekend and will be going solo for a couple of weeks before returning back here in Russellville for a court date with my soon to be X. Now here is the twist....In June several of my friends who are not fulltimers but do camp alot are going to Fl. They have been making this trip for ten years and now that I am back in Ar. they want me to go.I have asked a friend of mine, a lady, to join me for the two weeks in Fl. Now I am having some second thoughts about this because we are just friends, but we have lots of fun when we are together. It's a trip we both want to do and do first class so we thought we would go together and have twice the money to have a good time. Only friends really..Only the trip will tell....

[JazzZen]

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Originally Posted by FATMANAR JazzZen, I am leaving out this weekend and will be going solo for a couple of weeks before returning back here in Russellville for a court date with my soon to be X. Now here is the twist....In June several of my friends who are not fulltimers but do camp alot are going to Fl. They have been making this trip for ten years and now that I am back in Ar. they want me to go.I have asked a friend of mine, a lady, to join me for the two weeks in Fl. Now I am having some second thoughts about this because we are just friends, but we have lots of fun when we are together. It's a trip we both want to do and do first class so we thought we would go together and have twice the money to have a good time. Only friends really..Only the trip will tell....

:-) A dilemma indeed. But friends are friends - boy or girl. But if you both want to do it, have an understanding about the relationship and how expenses and tasks are going to be split, I'd say go for it. It'll be a good experiment. And we can learn from you vicariously! If it were me, the only reason I wouldn't do it is if I felt it would put my friendship at risk. And, I suppose, if I felt that way, I'd start looking at what isn't clear about the trip and what I was afraid might happen to risk the relationship. Then address those issues before hitting the road. Seems like you're pretty flexible and I'll bet you could deal with just about anything for two weeks - especially given that you'll have other friends around. If stuff comes up while on the trip, try to work it out then.
Do keep us posted about the trip! I'll be curious to hear how it went!

[JazzZen]

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Originally Posted by Barbara S. I don't full time, but I do go a lot. I have joined many groups because I DON'T want to be alone. One of my best times was when I traveled with two other full timers. I enjoyed the companionship and we had wonderful group meals (everyone contributed something) that were much better than I would have been able to provide by myself. I was out traveling for a month then and I really enjoyed it. Right now I schedule all my adventures so I am with different groups. I am happier and I feel safer that way.

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Originally Posted by Lorna "NOT ALL WHO WANDER ARE LOST" Not all who are alone are lonely. Some folks don't get that. Just because you are solo, you will have some who think you are lonely. I am not a solo RVer but I do value my "alone time". I like my own company.

Opposite ends of the spectrum right here! I just love how diverse the world is! Everyone does it differently and has something unique to offer! I love the idea of shared meals - but mine is a one-butt kitchen. How do you manage that? Oh - or do you mean you traveled in your own rigs? That would work better for me. And for the meals :-)

[Izzyblueye]

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Originally Posted by FATMANAR JazzZen, I am leaving out this weekend and will be going solo for a couple of weeks before returning back here in Russellville for a court date with my soon to be X. Now here is the twist....In June several of my friends who are not fulltimers but do camp alot are going to Fl. They have been making this trip for ten years and now that I am back in Ar. they want me to go.I have asked a friend of mine, a lady, to join me for the two weeks in Fl. Now I am having some second thoughts about this because we are just friends, but we have lots of fun when we are together. It's a trip we both want to do and do first class so we thought we would go together and have twice the money to have a good time. Only friends really..Only the trip will tell....

I would give it a try. You will have learned a valuable lesson from it. Chances are the way you felt about the trip the first time you heard about it, will be your best guide. We can over analyze these things, having said that, I also believe in not doing knee jerk decisions. The greatest consideration (being just good friends), will be, is there enough room for some modicum of privacy. I had a similar opportunity this year and declined. Reason, I just downsized and now know it is not enough room for two people to co-exist comfortably. I only found this out after I made the trip and lived in the new quarters alone. Even my kitty gets in the way. Hope you have a great trip together. Keep us informed