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islandtime 09-16-2008 08:46 AM

Hello Ladies,
I was wondering what you do when the TT or MH gets to close for comfort. I have been Married 25 years and have been full time for a few years now and sometimes the Walls just close in and everything hubby does makes me crazy including breathing LOL LOL
So how do you cope or I'm I alone on this.
let me know how you get a break from each other,
even in the best of times it is nice to have ALONE time.
Looking forward to your response http://irv2.infopop.cc/images/sign0163.gif

islandtime 09-16-2008 08:46 AM

Hello Ladies,
I was wondering what you do when the TT or MH gets to close for comfort. I have been Married 25 years and have been full time for a few years now and sometimes the Walls just close in and everything hubby does makes me crazy including breathing LOL LOL
So how do you cope or I'm I alone on this.
let me know how you get a break from each other,
even in the best of times it is nice to have ALONE time.
Looking forward to your response http://irv2.infopop.cc/images/sign0163.gif

Barbaraok 09-16-2008 05:00 PM

I go shopping by myself. Often don't buy anything, but just get out and get some space. Everyone needs space once in a while. http://irv2.infopop.cc/images/laugh.gif

Barb

The Lavin's 09-16-2008 05:24 PM

I tell DH to go play golf. He loves to play golf and I know that I can get at least 4 or 5 hours to myself.

Linda

Lorna 09-16-2008 06:22 PM

David is the one who gets cabin fever. I just curl up with a book and some pop-corn. For the past year, I have been working out at Curves 5X a week. It gets me out of the "house" and I can talk to others. Also I've gone from a size 18 to a size 8 in a year with out dieting. Works for me!

David looks for diners that he can go and drink coffee at.

RRT2 09-20-2008 11:42 AM

My DH thinks at times we're joined at the hip! Drives me bonkers periodically! When we are living in our MH in the winter, I've got a stack of books -- and now a pile of material. If I want to do something (by myself for a change), I tell him I'm going to the Quilt shop to 'look' around. He doesn't care for that unless I request his help on colors.

Last winter was the best winter for us. I got busy and finished my first two (yes 2) quilts....he got busy and built a stand-alone desk for the coach at the park woodworking shop. Since we only had plain vanilla table/chairs, this desk fits over the table -- and is freestanding. Kept him busy for 6-8 weeks!

This fall, I'm having him scan all of the pictures my 88-yr old mother has in albums, etc. to take with us this winter. Then he can spend this winter sorting them by name (if we can figure out who they are!).

We added a pup this summer, so now we'll both do the walking thing during the day.

We're not fulltimers, but that 'space' thing still crops up.

Rose

GraciesMom 09-20-2008 08:04 PM

My ex-boyfriend and I RV'd for a little under a year. When we started out, we were both avid fishermen and if I didn't want to go, he'd go without me - which was great! Then we met this couple who had been married forever and they were having problems. He fished all the time and left her alone a lot and she was resentful so she had gotten into raising and showing dogs. They traveled in a 33' MH with FIVE - count 'em - FIVE big dogs. Her life consisted of grooming the dogs - his life consisted of fishing. She resented his fishing and he resented her dogs. My BF got a little spooked by this and stopped going fishing unless I went with him. That was the beginning of the end!!! I'd tell him to go and he'd say, "there's more to life than fishing" or "I don't need to be fishing all the time."

I'm perfectly capable of entertaining myself - I have tons of hobbies and don't need someone around all the time, although I do enjoy the company most of the time. I was totally honest with him - I NEED SOME ALONE TIME - but he just didn't get it. All I know is to tell them ya gotta have some space . . . and like others suggested, get out and find your own space. I went to movies, malls, libraries, and just windowshopping to get away. If I was going to be somewhere for a while, I'd volunteer at the dog pound or nursing home. Of course, he tried to go with me everywhere I went but I would say no and that would lead to resentment. So - he's now my ex. My next co-pilot will be more of a free spirit and have interests of his own.

Happymi 09-21-2008 05:36 AM

Not fulltiming , but I am one to not let the dust settle on me.

When we stop at a campground I look at the brochure from the office. If I find something of interest I plan on it for the next day. Sometimes he wants to go with me. Most of the time he would rather sleep longer. I am off and gone and refreshed and when I return he might just want to go for a ride in the jeep and see the sights. Works for us.

We have always worked together since we have been married, guess we just got use to 24-7 together.

A brief walk will always lead to conversation with others in the campground. I enjoy listening to fellow travelers adventures. It inspires me.

Just make it happen.

Happymi

mainlander 12-05-2008 05:55 PM

What a relief, I love mine so much I can't wait to have the walls close in. He has been in combat four times and I can't wait to be in his gravitational pull all day.

GraciesMom 12-06-2008 08:45 PM

Mainlander . . . just make sure you give HIM some space. It goes both ways. After being away and in combat four times he might need the space to decompress sometimes. I hope he's ok . . . combat is so stressful and so many men just stuff the stress. I'm so happy for you that he's finally going to be home! And tell him thank you for his service . . . thank you for supporting him and taking care of him as well.

diandtom 12-08-2008 06:40 AM

I can totally relate as we have been married 41 years. I am an avid reader and he likes to get his bike out,ride around the campground and see if there is anyone who has an IRV2 sticker or anyone is from our state.I had major back surgery last year and need both knees replaced so not as active as he is. It still gets to be too much togetherness at times,but just think how lonely it would be if something happens to him and you would be alone.Then you can tollerate more.
Dianne

Stanbnv 12-30-2008 08:26 PM

Sometimes even the happiest couples need a break from one another...it's healthy for the relationship. In the past year I've spent a week with 2 of my best friends, a week at my son's home, a week in Guadalajara, and am making plans on spending another couple of days in Guad. next month. Stan golfs 3 days a week, I golf once or twice a week, I also design and make jewelry so the time we're together is special. Our lives are busy, full and rewarding when we're together or apart. I hope that you find the balance that you want. Lindy


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