I fully understand the reasons why a dealer or licensed, insured shop might not want to do the modification you want. I used the term 'shade tree mechanic' in no way to be sarcastic, just that a handy neighbor or friend could install a switch and not have the concerns you expressed, "
Their refusal was obviously based on warranty and legal considerations."
Adding a switch should in no way void a warranty or cause legal issues if you have requested to have it installed. Installing electronic modifications like a tuner chip or changing the engine or transmission programming could void a warranty, but not installing a switch of convenience to do the exact same thing the manufacturer recommends for towing, disconnect the one fuse.
More likely the reason the dealer didn't want to do the modification is it's not listed in his rates and procedures book so they don't know what to charge. Also, the sad state of auto 'technicians' today is such that they perhaps can only do procedures they've been trained to do and can't do custom work.
If you can't do the work yourself, then finding a local tinkerer or mechanic that can do the install. You of course would make it clear to be liable IF the modification caused a fire or disabled the car's safety features, which are very unlikely if a properly rated switch was installed. That should eliminate all risk to the installer.
The only possible issue might be that if the switch shut off while driving, the engine might shut off, disabling the electric power assisted brakes, steering (if so equipped) or air bags might not deploy. I'm sure most every switch installed wouldn't do such a thing, but it's a possible risk, however slight. The faulty ignition switches installed in GM vehicles caused such issues as described above, but I certainly wouldn't hesitate to do such a modification if it were my vehicle. Here's an expensive version of what you desire:
https://www.etrailer.com/Tow-Bar-Wir...ddy/TD706.html
I didn't mean to be sarcastic or rude, sorry if you interpreted it that way.