Here's a thread from the Jayco Owners Forum that tells how the different utility center valve settings work:
https://www.jaycoowners.com/forums/f...tml#post909713 It also has some downloadable pdfs that you can print for reference.
While you're driving, setting the valves to 3 and 5 (as you said you're doing) should provide water pump pressure to all the house plumbing, including the toilet. So it sounds like something isn't working right for you.
The filter under the sink filters all of the water coming into the coach from the city connection so it shouldn't affect the pressure of just the bathroom and shower. Do you have the same pressure loss when working off the pump? None of the water goes through the filter when using the pump.