i just want to say that this discussion sounds a lot like the ones that play out between stay-at-home moms and working moms. there seems to be a great divide between the two.
the hubby and i went out to dinner the other night and sat a table away from 3 women and a man who were discussing the same thing we all got into, and their conversation didn't get any further. the woman who said it was best to live away from your family was a native of Chile, and she was on her own here, while her kids lived elsewhere in the states, and her folks and other family still lived in Chile. The woman who was for families staying together said that her kids were in high school now, but once they 'moved out', she would follow them and they were all ok with that. the other man and woman didn't really say much, but they seemed to be split also.
this, among other things (i.e. working, war, politics, religion, etc) seems to be a very sticky subject and has people very polarized. that said, i think it's very rude to for someone to say someone else has a 'serious problem' just because feelings and beliefs differ. like Anna, Stacey and I's discussion of this, there's a line between intelligent bantering and harsh criticism.