RV person without a companion

[welleking]

That last lady might be who I'm looking for. I'm a 6ft 1 in Monaco windsor owner who's found himself alone at this point. At 250 lbs I'm not a light weight inspire of having lost 50 lbs.
At this point ìm getting solar and star link added to the
Motor Home in preparation for spreading my wife's ashes in Idaho sometime in the spring on the way to Missouri where I'm intending to get a new shower and possibly a new refrigerator too.if I don't trade the windsor for another rv in Texas. At 81 and full timing since 2000 I will die in my rv somewhere but quitting ain't in the cards but I sure would enjoy sharing my life and bed.

[glens]

Originally Posted by Urbanhermit

Originally Posted by Gravelette View Post
"Searching for "worthy" works both ways. You value small and petite, someone else might focus on not getting saddled with an old guy w/o adequate finances. Money talks, especially in old age."

Under the circumstances, this was unkind and unnecessary.

But a True Statement. Ladies that are looking for a Mate think along the same lines.

[Bigadventur]

You could be a volunteer host at a campground. You meet new people everyday.

A host at my local state park lost his wife. He promised her he would continue to volunteer host.

[robertlipp]

Have you looked into Loners on Wheels? My deceased father-in-law traveled with them after his wife died. He met a female friend whom he traveled around with for years, often in their separate RVs.

[DreTom77]

Here at FMCA RV rally in Indio, CA. Several single women. Some driving Class B and 2 driving Class A. Probably the same at other rallies.

[Roadyacht1]

My wife died from Alzheimers 8 yrs ago. We were a team of 2 sailing much of the world on our sailboat. We also fultimed on our DP road yacht for 4 yrs. After she died, I went on a dating site called Senior People Meet. I dated about 5 women and settled on one. We dated and eventually married. I did not have your experience with the sites. I like that you could put out your provile and what you are looking for. I stated that I loved to travel and adventure.

Sailboats, RV’s. Cruiseships. What ever. Had little problem finding my adventure companion.

I was married to my late wife for 40 yrs. Now we have been married for 6.5 yrs. We have crossed the Atlantic and sailed Europe on the Wind Star. Crossed the continent twice and back by RV. And again by car and hotels. We have had great adventures. We both were 73 when we met. Now 80 and we are mid way yet again crossing the continent from N CA to E NC. Dodging snow storms in NM right now as I type this from a Walmart parking lot. We do a mixture of RV parks, prefer simple mon and pop type. COE, BLM etc. We know how to have a blast w/o spending too much money. We share expenses equally. We both entered the marriage with similar finances and had a prenup, when we got married this late in life. It’s worked very well.

I am sorry that you had a bad experience with the dating sites. You need to put it out there what you are looking for. Be honest. One thing that helped was that I was looking for a wife, not a daughter. I wanted an equal companion and got one.

[arboldt]

Sorry for your loss. Unfortunately I'm guessing half of us will experience that.
I know some couples that met through dating sites. But most 2nd marriages I know, they met just through life. We've met many widows / widowers / singles in our RV life - through an Escapees chapter, FMCA, and at RV parks, especially retiree oriented ones in Snow Bird destinations - "Winter Texans" in the Rio grande valley. One of our kids described it as "a target -rich environment." Churches, clubs, etc. 55 years ago DW and I met working in a dormitory kitchen. One retiree couple we knew met in a line at the local post office.

[followingsea]

Originally Posted by loren harris

.......Still looking for a worthy companion ......

We had been full time for 5 years when Rita died in her sleep in the MH. It has been 5 years since then and it was very hard at first. My kids wanted me to get rid of the MH.

Now I travel alone in our home with wonderful memories. What I have figured out after many years of wonderful companionship, is that I did not need to replace it.

Recently a friend who was camping with DW died, suggested that I get a dog. It is hard to explain so I did not try.

While I am not opposed to meeting someone who I enjoy being with, for now I enjoy being alone when I travel to visit friends and family.

[Urbanhermit]

There is so much poignant, muted emotion here, grief, sadness, bravery, hope, that it is both difficult and inspiring for me to read. All the responses to widow(er)hood expressed here are genuine; each of our personalities and responses to live and living are innate and therefore valid.

I'm 80; my wife, a widow of six years when we met, is 83. So far we both are doing exceptionally well, she probably better than I because she attends Jazzercize six days a week. I'm coasting on good genes (Dad broke two world records in track as a young man and lived to 84, on one kidney the last fifty years of his life. This is my third marriage. I'm a slow learner but stubborn. On our first date I realized she was my pearl in the mudpuddle of my life. I promised her I'll outlive her so she won't be a widow again. Though I dread the experience I hope I can keep that promise. I know that age and inclination will have me "RVing" alone the rest of my life, behind the wheel or from a lounge chair.

[schneid811]

Originally Posted by loren harris

Hello, LONGGGGGGG time since I have been here. Not comfortable with it and just pushed it aside as I have not found a companion since my wife died 3.5 years ago. She was hiking solo on an Arizona desert trail and died from heat stroke. I was finally getting our new Tiffin RV cleaned out and that took a month as there are too many memories. WE so loved our time traveling and exploring the USA and Alaska. We were going to take it on a 3 mo. trip to Alaska but then she died and that changed things on us. Still looking for a worthy companion without dogs and other animals as I don't have time for a kennel or animal shelter. I tried all the dating sites, and they are a joke. A bunch of women looking for a sugar Daddy and That is not me. I got off all those scammer sites and glad to be free of them, phony people looking to con everyone. Too bad there is not an RV date site for those still wanting to travel some and with someone who enjoys the laughter and goodness that can come from Rving. WELL, there I opened the door, we will see who jumps on it. I am not a big fella and don't need a big gal. Small and petite, even tempered and can live with humor. Getting older does not have to be dull or boring. I am country not a city slicker. NO colder climate for me, I am retired and be myself.

(MOD EDIT)

I started this to help a fellow Rver who had camera problems and help him out. I probably can't find his post.

Have you looked at this Facebook site...https://www.facebook.com/groups/705778184732518
Its
RV solos looking to meet other RVers during travels

Good luck and safe travels.

[Chazman7]

Hi Loren. I am so very sorry for your loss. I understand because I lost my wife to pancreatic cancer 2 1/2 years ago. One big difference, I now have a dog. I have four adult children (two boys, two girls) and my daughters kept saying Dad maybe should get a dog." My reply was always the same. "I don't want the responsibility of a dog, and I don't want to be picking up after a dog at my age." (I am 72) Well that all changed when I visited some friends in Florida late in 2023. They have a Golden Doodle that I fell in love with. Came home and mentioned to my daughter that maybe a dog wouldn't be such a bad idea. That was all it took. She was on the internet day and night searching and researching breeders. Fast forward a few months and I'm on my way home to Rhode Island from Florida again, (with my smaller travel trailer) when I detour to Tennessee to pick up my 8 week old female puppy, who actually picked me, but that's another story for another time. Best thing to happen to me in a very long time. But I understand that everyone is different. Anyway, I've been on Match for over a year, and haven't gotten past the conversation online stage. Anyone I "Liked" apparently wasn't impressed with my profile, and anyone who "Liked" me just wasn't who I was looking for. My subscription runs out in February and I will not be renewing.



Many thanks to Schneid811, I was unaware of that FB page, but I just applied to join.


I too am in excellent condition for my age, and well, I guess I'm looking for someone who can "keep up" with me.
Best of luck, and thanks to all who contributed to Loren's post here.

[RVfixit]

Originally Posted by loren harris

Hello, LONGGGGGGG time since I have been here. Not comfortable with it and just pushed it aside as I have not found a companion since my wife died 3.5 years ago. She was hiking solo on an Arizona desert trail and died from heat stroke. I was finally getting our new Tiffin RV cleaned out and that took a month as there are too many memories. WE so loved our time traveling and exploring the USA and Alaska. We were going to take it on a 3 mo. trip to Alaska but then she died and that changed things on us. Still looking for a worthy companion without dogs and other animals as I don't have time for a kennel or animal shelter. I tried all the dating sites, and they are a joke. A bunch of women looking for a sugar Daddy and That is not me. I got off all those scammer sites and glad to be free of them, phony people looking to con everyone. Too bad there is not an RV date site for those still wanting to travel some and with someone who enjoys the laughter and goodness that can come from Rving. WELL, there I opened the door, we will see who jumps on it. I am not a big fella and don't need a big gal. Small and petite, even tempered and can live with humor. Getting older does not have to be dull or boring. I am country not a city slicker. NO colder climate for me, I am retired and be myself.

(MOD EDIT)

I started this to help a fellow Rver who had camera problems and help him out. I probably can't find his post.

Hi Loren,

First, my condolences to you and your family. I've been married longer than I've been alive and really don't know what I would do if I were to lose my wife.

The best I can offer you is some very traditional advice. First, you posted on here. That in itself took a lot of thought and courage to bare your soul and reach out to others for suggestions on moving forward.

I met my wife by chance and truly believe in fate but as others have posted, you do need to put yourself in a comfortable social setting such as a Camp Host or other setting where you have some knowledge and experience. You can't meet someone if you isolate yourself.

I am not a fan of social media, dating sites, etc. simply because the posters are often unreliable, fake or scammers. I'm in no way saying that's the majority of people as social media has opened a lot of good doors for people but for me, its not me. I wouldn't start doing something I have no experience with.

What I would be doing...not go looking, just let it happen. If it does, great, if not, I will still have many wonderful memories to fall back on and of course my kids.

I really do believe and hope that if you give access to yourself with things that you are comfortable with such as camping, hobbies, etc. you automatically start out with something in common and can build from there.

Good Luck to you with your quest to find at least companionship for whatever the future holds for you.

Good Luck and Safe Travels!

[SafariBen]

Originally Posted by RVfixit

I am not a fan of social media, dating sites, etc. simply because the posters are often unreliable, fake or scammers. I'm in no way saying that's the majority of people as social media has opened a lot of good doors for people but for me, its not me. I wouldn't start doing something I have no experience with...

That feels like it's in response to my comment, and I agree not to start something you have no experience in. It used to be that girls were taught to "play dumb" a little to be more likeable. That wisdom should be used by some older men also. If you're going to be a camp host, be a friendly, welcoming, even flirty host. Never a know it all, or expert, unless specifically asked.


Regarding social media, it's documented that women especially have different (dramatically higher) standards for strangers than they do for real people that they get to know in real life.

[dbircky]

Finding someone on social media is like finding a Rolex at the bottom of the outhouse. Spend time traveling alone. Be friendly, approachable, helpful, kind, considerate, basically the behavior you'd like in a companion. Desperate smells from a mile away. The simple fact is, as we age there are many more available women than available men. Bonus is there's a wider age range for older men too. Relax, give it time. Give yourself the gift of being alone. I travel often alone, but never lonely. If you're having fun, others will want to join you.

Philippines - as someone suggested? Well I have zero experience with that, not sure how to drive the MH there either.