RV person without a companion

[loren harris]

Hello, LONGGGGGGG time since I have been here. Not comfortable with it and just pushed it aside as I have not found a companion since my wife died 3.5 years ago. She was hiking solo on an Arizona desert trail and died from heat stroke. I was finally getting our new Tiffin RV cleaned out and that took a month as there are too many memories. WE so loved our time traveling and exploring the USA and Alaska. We were going to take it on a 3 mo. trip to Alaska but then she died and that changed things on us. Still looking for a worthy companion without dogs and other animals as I don't have time for a kennel or animal shelter. I tried all the dating sites, and they are a joke. A bunch of women looking for a sugar Daddy and That is not me. I got off all those scammer sites and glad to be free of them, phony people looking to con everyone. Too bad there is not an RV date site for those still wanting to travel some and with someone who enjoys the laughter and goodness that can come from Rving. WELL, there I opened the door, we will see who jumps on it. I am not a big fella and don't need a big gal. Small and petite, even tempered and can live with humor. Getting older does not have to be dull or boring. I am country not a city slicker. NO colder climate for me, I am retired and be myself.

(MOD EDIT)

I started this to help a fellow Rver who had camera problems and help him out. I probably can't find his post.

[Urbanhermit]

My most sincere condolences. Some griefs are enduring and we have to build a new life over them, like a floating platform. I'm still mourning the death of a son 30 years ago but I've learned to enjoy what I have (a lot) despite that. My wife was a widow when I married her and I promised her I'll outlive her so she won't have to bury a husband twice -- but I dread the prospect. We're in our 80s. It isn't far off.

[Gravelette]

Originally Posted by loren harris

Hello, LONGGGGGGG time since I have been here. Not comfortable with it and just pushed it aside as I have not found a companion since my wife died 3.5 years ago. She was hiking solo on an Arizona desert trail and died from heat stroke. I was finally getting our new Tiffin RV cleaned out and that took a month as there are too many memories. WE so loved our time traveling and exploring the USA and Alaska. We were going to take it on a 3 mo. trip to Alaska but then she died and that changed things on us. Still looking for a worthy companion without dogs and other animals as I don't have time for a kennel or animal shelter. I tried all the dating sites, and they are a joke. A bunch of women looking for a sugar Daddy and That is not me. I got off all those scammer sites and glad to be free of them, phony people looking to con everyone. Too bad there is not an RV date site for those still wanting to travel some and with someone who enjoys the laughter and goodness that can come from Rving. WELL, there I opened the door, we will see who jumps on it. I am not a big fella and don't need a big gal. Small and petite, even tempered and can live with humor. Getting older does not have to be dull or boring. I am country not a city slicker. NO colder climate for me, I am retired and be myself.

(MOD EDIT)

I started this to help a fellow Rver who had camera problems and help him out. I probably can't find his post.

Searching for "worthy" works both ways. You value small and petite, someone else might focus on not getting saddled with an old guy w/o adequate finances. Money talks, especially in old age.

[MFL]

Originally Posted by Gravelette

Searching for "worthy" works both ways. You value small and petite, someone else might focus on not getting saddled with an old guy w/o adequate finances. Money talks, especially in old age.

This sounds a bit harsh, but in reality is true. Not many attractive women are just looking for companionship, especially from an older gent. They would be more attracted to someone that can afford to wine/dine, travel to exciting destinations, which will be expensive.

Good luck to the gent looking! There is someone for everyone, depending how high you set your sights.

[kcmusa]

I went to some gatherings with single RV groups from Facebook.
Have made so great friends and great memories.
Have a look and attend one of their meetings.

[Urbanhermit]

Originally Posted by Gravelette View Post
"Searching for "worthy" works both ways. You value small and petite, someone else might focus on not getting saddled with an old guy w/o adequate finances. Money talks, especially in old age."

Under the circumstances, this was unkind and unnecessary.

[Gravelette]

^^^You are certainly entitled to have and express an opinion, no problem.

[SafariBen]

The OP never said he was old, or even retired, or broke. Just that he didn't like fatties or sugar babies, fair enough. There are plenty of older women looking for companionship, but petite, rural women that like to RV with no pets is narrowing it down SIGNIFICANTLY. You're not going to run into a lot of them in day to day RV life! A dog is the best ice breaker, really shooting yourself in the foot avoiding dogs. If you have any cute grandkids that you could take along, they're almost as good as a dog, but creepy if they're not yours, and harder to obtain than a dog. They don't even have to be cute, a "special" teenager is just as much of an icebreaker as a cute four year old. No dogs, no grandkids, how about an unusual hobby? recumbant bike, fishing pole, kite, flaming BBQ? the secret is not to be too good at it. Nobody wants to talk to the expert bicyclist or fisherman.



If all else fails, Philippines, but not online. Go there, or meet their grand daughters or nieces here.



I'm not joking, not entirely at least.

[NLOVNIT]

Originally Posted by Gravelette

... someone else might focus on not getting saddled with an old guy w/o adequate finances....

I wouldn't consider a single guy with a Tiffin Bus w/o adequate finances. Quite the contrary.

Hang in there Loren. So sorry for your loss. I lost Dave 4 years ago. You don't get over it. You just learn to live your new life.

You could find someone when you least expect it. You might try joining & RVing with some of the solo groups out there. Be with others who like to RV. At least you'll have something in common with them rather than those found on the dating sites. There's many solo women RVrs out there. I know. I was one

Good luck.

[Dieselboy]

The fact remains that women generally look for safety and security in a partner. This typically means financial stability and means. Whereas the opposite is true for me. A woman who is career focused and makes a ton of money is irrelevant to me. In fact, it’s a major negative.

Call it what you want, but a sugar daddy is just another term for “provider”. Most reasonable women, that you’d want to actually be with, don’t expect you to have a second home in Monaco and a private plane. They just want security. Financial and physical. If you provide that, in combination with presenting your best self by not being a slob and working out, your options are plentiful.

A man’s worth is wrapped up in how much responsibility he carries. Being responsible for providing for the needs of his spouse and children and their occasional wants is a massive W.

[JucyBrucie]

Be yourself. Love yourself - you need to love yourself before you can love others (and have others love you!)

[VA-Apraisr]

Sometimes, especially in this day and age, AND if you're over 50.....it's best to just stick with it and be more selective with whom you agree to meet! And, keep it short with a coffee shop visit, quick drink in the evening, etc.

Physical attraction diminishes quickly (as we shave in the morning mirror....ughhh!) it's happening to you too. Unfortunately, most dating sites have profile pics that range as far back as high school! You may find that wonderful companion has many highpoints versus just physical.

If you like to bowl, dance, golf, church goer.......just GO! You'll find like-minded folks doing what you're actively doing. As for RVing, same thing. Love on your pets and get out there and just socialize. I've never lost a spouse and my condolences. If you're still in love with her, take a break because women know if you're "not available" in the heart. Wishing you the best my friend!

[Wufpaq]

Does Ann Margaret RV????

[dcanavan58]

Wow, there is a lot of stereotyping going on here. Loren, I wish you well in your search. My husband passed 4 years ago. I took up RVing because home was just not home anymore without him in it. There are a lot of solo RVing females out there. I also think you will find that many of them have a dog or cat for companionship. I am not looking for a sugar Daddy, just someone to share experiences with. I am financially sound in my own right. Unfortunately I am not who you are looking for, I am a happy chubby woman and not looking for someone who wants to hike, but enjoys great food, wine, life and the adventures it offers. I have travelled the world and now am looking to explore more of US. I wish you well in finding your companion and have faith I will someday find mine.